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Personal Development

Adversity is a Blessing in Disguise

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“You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity” -Epicurus

What do all human beings have in common?

We are all faced with the challenges and struggles that life brings. At the age of 18, I was sexually molested by an older man. During this time in my life, I became depressed, lost weight, and became very distorted about my reality. The day I came back home to my parents, I was standing at a cross road. I had the option of either allowing this man and situation to negatively affect the rest of my life or to view this adversity as a learning experience and make the necessary changes in my life. The decision was clear. I made the mental commitment that this adversity is a learning experience and I will overcome this challenge.  This was the beginning of my personal transformation. I told the universe that I will become a stronger and wiser woman because of this experience. I envisioned a life and marriage that would be truly worth living for.

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Personal Development

How To Appreciate Your Life Every Single Day

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Do you take the time to appreciate your life on a daily basis? Or does it seem like the daily stress of life blocks you from appreciating your life? Appreciation is when you are able to fully recognize the worth and value of “something” or “someone”.  When you appreciate a car, you fully recognize the worth and value of your car. Even more importantly, when you appreciate your spouse, you fully recognize the worth and value of your spouse.

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Meaningful Happiness In Your Life

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All of us want to experience happiness but only a handful experience meaningful happiness. We live in a society where we are constantly being distracted with materialistic possessions and society’s standard of living. We become so distracted that we lose a sense of self. We start modeling what we see in the media  and the way celebrities are living their life that we forget about our own life. The more you surround yourself with the media, the more you will be influenced to change your life based upon what you see. Let’s say you sit down one evening and start watching your favorite reality show. This becomes  an evening routine of watching your favorite show. Subconsciously you will start mimicking what you see in the show in your daily life. The way the people in the show act, will be how you act. The way they handle their relationships with others will become a similar way of how you handle your relationships. Little do you know, you start putting the media in charge of designing your life. You start dressing, acting, and behaving just like your favorite stars. The more you surround yourself with the media and society’s standard of living the further away you are from experiencing meaningful happiness.

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Marriage

Habits To Establish In Your Relationship

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The definition of a habit is “a consistent and regular pattern of behavior”. You can either develop positive habits or negative habits and once you start practicing them, they will eventually become an act that is unconscious. When it comes to having a happy relationship, there are certain habits that can have a powerful and positive impact in your relationship. You will need to make an effort every single day to practice positive habits in your relationship. It takes about 21 days to establish a habit. Implement these habits in your relationship!

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Top Questions To Ask In The Mornings To Be Happy

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Happiness all starts within you. You can’t search for happiness from the outside world. If you want to be happy, you need to ask yourself these 10 questions every morning.

 

How can I live in alignment with my values and beliefs in life today?

Living in alignment with your deepest values and beliefs will ultimately make you happy. Human beings are most happy when they are living their life with how they imagine their life being. Imagine what your life will consist of if you live in alignment with your values and beliefs. Will you be a happier individual? It’s about taking action with what you believe in and making the commitment every single day of living out your values.

 

What can I do today to fulfill my human needs?

There are 6 human needs that we experience. These 6 human needs consist of certainty, variety, significance, connection & love, growth, and contribution. Take a moment every morning and be clear with what you human needs are. These human needs are what matter to you the most. I know that for me personally, connection & love and contribution are my two highest human needs. I live each and every day in alignment with these two human needs and let me tell you, I am very happy in my life. Reflect and be clear with what your human needs are.

 

Why do I go to work every day?

Do you know why you go to work every single day? Does it seem like you are constantly stuck in a “draining routine”? In order for you to be happy, you need to know why you do what you do. What is the reason for you to wake up in the mornings and go to work? You must experience a passion behind your actions. Without passion, it’s easy to get stuck in a boring and dull routine. Reach deep within yourself and be clear with why you go to work.

 

Am I experiencing happiness from within?

 

A lot of us fall into the trap of finding happiness from the outside world. Whether it be materialistic possessions or from other people, we must take the time to ask our self this question. Where is happiness coming from in your life? It’s important for you to experience happiness from within because you will be constant even when stress and frustration come your way. You will have a solid internal foundation from within. No matter what you experience in life, you know that you will be okay. When happiness is rooted from within you, you are more likely to bounce back from stressful situations.

 

How can I love my spouse more today?

This question is always used in my marriage. My husband and I wake up in the mornings and ask ourselves this question. It’s easy for couples to get stuck in a “draining routine,” where they forget about doing the little things that express love to their partner. Ask yourself this question every morning and make the time to express love to your partner. This will definitely help rekindle your relationship!

 

What is my legacy?

Take a moment and reflect upon this question. It’s important for you to think long term. What do you want to be remembered by? When you’re able to be clear with your legacy, you are more likely to work towards your legacy. I know that for me personally, I want to be remembered as having a meaningful marriage and helping people live a fulfilling and rewarding life. I live with this legacy every single day. Now it’s your turn. What’s your legacy?

 

Am I surrounding myself with positive people?

When it comes to your happiness, the people with which you surround yourself will influence you. We are more likely to conform when we are in a group setting. Who are the types of people you hang around with? If you surround yourself with negative people, their negativity will rub off onto you. If you surround yourself with positive people, their energy will rub off onto you. You have the choice of deciding who you’re friends with. If you want to be happy, chose your friends wisely.

 

Where am I now in comparison to where I want to be?

It’s important for you to always reflect upon where you currently are and where you want to be in life. Being consciously aware that you are working towards your goals will make you happy. Understand that where you are now is only temporarily. You are constantly growing, learning and developing your mind. Take the time to reflect on your life. Where are you now in comparison to where you want to be? Do you know which direction you’re heading? If not, what changes do you need to make in order to be in the direction you want to be in?

 

What makes me happy?

This is a very simple question but worth talking about. Take a moment to reflect upon what truly makes you happy. I’m not talking about materialistic possessions or superficial things, like shopping or buying the latest gadget. I’m talking about internal happiness. What speaks to your soul? Focus on feeding your inner being. If you’re looking for long term happiness, it all starts from within.

 

How am I making a difference in this world?

We all want to make a difference in this world. Whether it be big or small. Life is about helping others live a better life. Take the time to figure what how you want to make a difference in this world. It can be as small as not littering or as big as becoming the president of the United States. You are in control. You have the option of living a passionately happy life or remaining stuck with where you are. You decide.

 

“Can you think of any other morning questions that will help with your happiness?”

 

 

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Personal Development

Are You Being A Good Listener?

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Do you want to be a good listener that others want to talk to? Being a good listener does not come easy for some of us. It takes time, practice and dedication. What comes to your mind when you think about listening to a friend or co-worker? Do you find yourself thinking about what you want to say in response to what they have said or are you fully engaged with what they are talking about? When it comes to connecting with others, it’s all about consciously listening to them and the information that they are sharing with you.

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5 Precedents To Make Your Long Distance Relationship Last

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What comes to mind when you think about surviving a long distance relationship? Do you experience negative or positive emotions? Whether you have been in a long distance relationship for a while, or recently started a long distance relationship, it’s important for the both of you to be on the same page. In this post, I’ll show you 5 precedes to make your long distance relationship last.

Being in a long distance relationship is a challenge, but definitely worthwhile if you are committed to developing your relationship. A long distance relationship can either bring the two of you closer together, or pull you further apart. I want to share with you the top 5 precedents that my husband and I used while we were in a long distance relationship. I highly suggest that you share this article with your partner. There will be a “Take Action” exercise at the end of each precedent that I encourage the both of you to implement. This article is not really about just “surviving” a long distance relationship, it’s about developing and growing your long distance relationship.

 

Precedent #1: Be Committed

When you are in a long distance relationship, it’s important for the both of you to know that you are equally committed to developing the relationship. Why bother being in a long distance relationship when one or both of you are not committed? You might as well just have it be a fling and then find someone locally. So, the first precedent to surviving a long distance relationship is to both be committed to maintaining and developing your relationship.

 

Take Action: Spend some quality time talking with your partner about the commitment that you have in the relationship. It’s important that the both of you are on the same page when it comes to investing your time and energy into it. It’s all about effective communication and knowing that you are just as committed as your partner. Simply ask your partner, “Are you committed to developing our relationship?” The sooner you’re able to be on the same page, the sooner you’ll know if this relationship is worth your time and energy. Wouldn’t you rather know where your partner is at now instead of investing so much and possibly finding out later that they’re not as committed as you thought? Be open and make sure that you’re on the same page when it comes to the level of commitment in the relationship.

 

Precedent #2:  Write it down

Surviving a long distance relationship is definitely a challenge, but when you know what your partner plans on doing in developing your relationship, you will feel much more secure. It’s important for you and your partner to write down on a piece of paper the commitments that both of you plan on living out every single day in developing your relationship. My husband and I did this while we were in a long distance relationship and eventually used these commitments for our vows on our wedding day. I’m not saying write down your future wedding vows, I’m sharing this with you because I want you to know the power of writing down your commitments to each other.

 

Take Action: Use whatever kind of communication that the two of you have and take the time to write down your commitments to each other. I would suggest using either Skype or FaceTime when doing this exercise. It would be best to actually see your partner. Start off by writing, “My commitment to (your partner’s name)…” Then start writing down the commitments that you plan on following through with every single day. Some examples may be sending your partner a text message during your lunch break or calling your partner after you get home from work. You decide the commitments you plan on doing for your partner. Take some time to write down the commitments that you have for your partner and vice versa. Once you’ve finished writing them down, say them out loud to your partner. Once you’ve shared your commitments, make a copy of them and send the original to your partner and have them send their original to you. This way, your partner will have your commitments to them, and you will have their commitments to you. Have these commitments in a place where you see them daily. This will really help in staying connected with your partner.

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